When you were a kid it was a lot easier. In college you almost had to be trying not to make friends. But then you’re an adult. You get busy with work. Your friends get busy with work. People get married. Have kids. And pretty soon being “close” means a text message twice a year.…
Many autistics have trouble learning the ‘unspoken rules’ of making friends. This article at Business Insider may help, as it makes some of those rules more explicit.
Anxiety is an issue for many on the autistic spectrum. Here are some simple ideas on dealing with anxiety, courtesy of AsapTHOUGHT
Like many autistics, I suffer from social anxiety. Recently, it occurred to me that maybe I talk too fast, and that other people find this off-putting (which creates a vicious cycle, where I sense they find my behavior strange, and that makes me even more anxious!). So I decided to make an effort to talk a little slower. The experience so far has been positive. People tend to react more calmly and pleasantly if you talk to them slowly, and their positive response helps you calm down as well.
I wondered if other people had thought of slowing down as a way of dealing with social anxiety. Turns out, it’s standard practice in cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) for social anxiety. Furthermore, if you have a high-pitched voice, people tend to take you less seriously (and you sound more anxious), so in that case consider lowering pitch too. Slowing down all your movements may help as well, but don’t over-do it or you’ll look like a zombie! It takes a little getting used to, and may feel a bit awkward at first. If you’re absent-minded like me, it helps to set a daily reminder. Here’s a video I found that explains some of the benefits of talking slower:
Yup. You read the title right—the downside of efficiency. How can there be a downside to efficiency? Let me enlighten you.
For those of you who are Type A personalities or recovering Type A personalities, or who have learned to be efficient by force of nature (like many special needs parents or folks facing huge challenges), you will face some problems. How do I know? I live it.
Here are four side effects of efficiency that should be labeled on the bottle or mentioned in the commercial voiceover:
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